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How to Punch Fear in the Face

In my first submission we identified what Punching Fear in the Face was all about. We highlighted a few of its benefits to your overall well-being. So good, we got it…but how do we implement this? How do we actually “Punch Fear in the Face”? First, let’s clear up what kind of fear we’re referring to. The fear that warns you of oncoming danger, keeps you from misbehaving (because you don’t want to get arrested) and can be used to make assessments is not the type we’re discussing.

We’re looking at the fear that:

  • Binds and restricts you
  • Immobilizes you
  • Lies to you
  • Scares you
  • Overpowers and controls you
This fear is a bully. There is no rationalizing with it. It is created by you, but you must overpower it.

Here are 3 tips that will enable you to handle fear and get it out of your way.

Don’t Have a Chit Chat with Fear


Fear is not real. Fear is a liar. Fear has you believing that something will happen in the future that will greatly harm you, without even any evidence of the sort. Fear will have you bound in the present for what it predicts will happen in the future.  When you acknowledge that those fearful thoughts and feelings are not ‘real’; that they’re a figment of your imagination, you expose the truth. The truth is that fear is not real. The truth is that fear is an illusion born out of your insecurities and experiences. Fear is your very own inner enemy. This is why you don’t have discussions with your enemy. You just punch it in the face and keep it moving. As a matter of fact, if you stay and try to reason with fear, it will overpower you. You’re basically asking fear to expound on the many ways things can go wrong. Don’t let fear even have a foothold. Don’t give it the opportunity. Punch it in the face and keep it moving!


The Truth Shall Set You Free


You embrace the truth and then realize that indeed you have the power to control your thoughts and your feelings and that you are the head of your being. You may not be able to control what happens on the outside, but you can have control of what happens on the inside. So don’t let fear make you a prisoner in your own home. Step to fear and punch it in the face. Don’t let fear rule you with its fakeness, its posing. Acknowledging and applying the truth lessens fear’s power over you and essentially…sets you free.


Move Swiftly


The aggressive picture of ‘punching fear in the face’ and my consistent admonition to ‘keep it moving’ all point to an important reminder. In order to successfully win the bout with fear, you have to move quickly. If you take time, you give more opportunities for other doubts to creep in. You start to rationalize with yourself, looking for a way out of confronting your fear.  You’re most powerful when you first decide to take action. You’re filled with adrenalin. It is after a while that you get deflated and therefore weakened. How many times have you changed your mind about something because you let it sit and simmer? So make the decision to knock that obstacle out of your way and then do it quickly.

Being equipped with these truths and having this game plan will save you time, money and energy. Use that energy to keep plowing towards your goals. Goals will always be accompanied by obstacles and every level will have its round of fights. Just remember the truth, don’t dance around the ring, move quickly and keep punching fear in the face. It’s so awesome to complete a goal you were once so fearful of and look back in amazement at yourself. You’ll laugh “and I was scared of that?”

 

*What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

Punching Fear in the Face!


Why punch fear in the face? It’s an aggressive way of removing the obstacle of fear in order to get closer to your goals. You’re acknowledging your fears and it’s impediment to your success and deciding to not waste time on a figment of your imagination.  Instead, you quickly and efficiently eliminate the obstacle. No time to sit and negotiate with fear, conversing with it and giving it an opportunity to over-power you. Punch it in the face and keep it moving!


Punching Fear in the Face is a form of self-love

If you think about what love is and how we express our love to others, we can imagine what it looks like to give ourselves that same care. Would you let yourself rot in a prison while the door is open? Because you love yourself, you would set yourself free. Would you keep good things from yourself? Would you keep good opportunities from yourself? All of this is within reach and for you to not supply your own needs would be a contradiction to loving yourself, right? Well, fear is what stands in the way between you and your freedom; between you and your success; between you and even your basic needs. Setting yourself free from the oppression of fear will allow you to soar, grow, learn and overcome. When you love someone, you protect them. You should protect yourself as well…protect yourself against the power of fear.  Protect yourself with intensity. That’s where the punching comes in. It’s an aggressive way of declaring “Fear, you will not over-power me. You will not enslave me”.
Punching Fear in the Face is a form of good stewardship

God gave you this life & body and your job is to be a good steward of it. You are entrusted with the honor of caring for your body, mind and spirit. If you allow yourself to not be cared for, you are in direct rebellion to God’s will for humankind. Your specific purpose hasn’t even come into play yet. First, you must care for your basic needs. Overcoming your fear, actively and consciously is the next level of caring for yourself. Allowing fear to manifest and over-power you can affect your physical health. Living under the weight of fear can lead to depression, anxiety, and  to isolation. Isolation will stop the flow of love coming into your life. And yes, we need love to survive.  Being a good and responsible steward of your life means caring for your basic needs, taking care of your health and allowing love to flow in and out of you.

Punching Fear in the Face will build your spiritual muscles

Every step you make towards lessening the power of fear in your life will strengthen you. You will start to build spiritual muscles. Think about it. Your fight is not with a physical obstacle, it’s a spiritual and/or emotional one. You can build the fortitude for battles large and small. Each one is a practice fight. You will spar, get hurt, maybe even knocked down. But as you build your strength you will get back up again and again, faster each time, to the point where you’re no longer getting knocked down. Every battle will teach you more about strategy, your weaknesses and strengths. Every bout will build muscle. Every bout will sharpen your mind. Talk about being a power-house!
And when it’s all said and done…

After you punch fear in the face and win, you will look back amazed at yourself that you garnered enough courage and strength to do it. You know what will happen next? You will look around for other pockets of fear in your life, mind and heart and actively pursue fear in order to punch it in the face again. You will get hooked. It feels good to win! It feels good to be set free. Then you will want to tell others. Heck, you even wish you can punch fear in the face for your friends! Overcoming your fears, fighting those battles will have a ripple effect in the lives of those closest to you. Imagine: you setting yourself free will help to set others free. Sounds like fantastic R.O.I. (Return On Investment)!
*Analysis paralysis is where you sit down with fear and ask ‘tell me everything that can go wrong with this idea”.*

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